Crowd Screaming!!

It was almost 2 pm, I had my lunch bellyful and i was about to sleep for a while. Suddenly I heard crowd of people screaming so loudly. I ran to my balcony and started peeping as i my home is in third floor. But i found no one there such as screaming! I was little scared to open the main door, because I was not sure what was happening outside. I got a call from my neighbor(from same floor), she was also frightened, she asked me to open the main door, we both decided to open the doors together! Yes! we did it! People were screaming so loudly, my neighbor told “it might downstairs let’s go and see”. We went downstairs, people from second floor were also going downstairs, we followed them.

Yes, it was in our building only, first floor! As it was Sunday everyone gathered there. People were murmuring there like a 22 years old lady has attempted suicide by drinking phenol!!! We were like PHENOL?? YEEWWWW!! Her family memebrs took her to hospital and we came back to our homes.

Even after coming home i was thinking, how one can drink phenoooooool??!! yuck! Committing suicide?? I don’t why people commit suicide? What do they feel? I’m are they so eager to make others to feel their absence?? How they will get to know if someone misses them after their death?? Hectic! I don’t understand 😦 Killing themselves?? For what??

Actually the girl who attempted suicide was a double graduate! What is the use of all that schooling she went? What is her parents fault? This is the one which we saw directly, but there are hundreds like this! They may think that they have a right to die but no. No one has the right to kill or kill themselves! They might be thinking that its their life, but directly or indirectly life is linked with many others of your family. Parents have brought you up from child to an adult, these long years! So, seriously, no one has the right to kill themselves! Every problem has a solution, suicide doesn’t come under the solution to any problem or pain! Sharing problems with others lighten your feelings and being lighter you might find a true solution to it.

With God’s grace that girl has reached home safely after two days of medical treatments!  In these two days we were just thinking about this hectic act of the young lady!

And I started doing my daily routine after two days, while pouring detergent liquid to washing machine, I thought it would be better for me to keep all my detergent liquid and phenol bottles inside the home instead of keeping in balcony 😀 Its too dangerous if mentally stressed or depressed one finds my phenol bottle here and  OMG!!! NOOOO! Save everyone! Let me keep all detergent liquid and phenol inside, for the betterment of the society! 😛

writer: breathmath

Tie The (k)not!

I still remember! That was

With not so heartily but somehow i convinced myself to agree with my parents. Are you thinking for what? Haha! I comprised to get engaged to the one whom my parents showed me. I had some disagreeing feeling like is he the man made for me? I was not happy getting engaged to him. Not only to him but i was not at all ready to get engaged to anyone! I was not mentally prepared! But kept shut my mouth, as there was no choice! Because I live in rural areas of India! Where at particular age, your surrounding expects you to get marry! Or else your parents are pointed by society for many questions! By looking all these i decided it would be better to get marry than leaving my parents to answer these critics! I shared all these with my best friend, she also had no words than “DON’T WORRY”!

As I’m fashion designer, I designed my own dress. It was golden color lehenga. Even if i was not happy, but craze of designing made me complete one dress in 10 hours, that’s from 7 pm to  5 am. Me and ma mamma did not sleep, whole night we were stitching, mamma as she was so happy for me! Me as craze of designing! My uncles and aunts came my home in the morning, on 27th January, that was my engagement day! Everyone was praising for my dress. Even i was happy at that moment, i’m still not sure whether i was happy for that ceremony or just because i was looking pretty awesome! However, I had smile on my face.

My parents and my uncles were just busy in pre-engagement ceremony, preparing food, decorating home, looking over seating arrangements for breakfast and lunch for guests. I got freshen up, wore my lehenga, when i came in front of my mamma she had tears of happiness in her eyes and my aunt whispered “Masha-Allah”. Even i was happy, because all others were happy. My best friend and my neighbors came home along with their family. It was somewhat, 11 pm when bridegroom and his family members came my home. I was so scared. Even now, while typing my heart is beating so fastly, my eyes are wet. On that day, i told with my friend that, “Muje ajeebsa darr lag raha hai, jaise kuch galat ho raha hai “. She replied me, “Don’t worry, nothing will be wrong!”

When bridegroom’s sisters and in-laws, his mamma came near to me, all other (my sissy, my friend, neighbor) none was there near to me. I was scared a lot. A single voice came from the crowd, “Masha Allah”. I felt little comfortable! Then my uncle came there and asked them to have breakfast and told me to take them with me to have breakfast. There i saw Bridegroom was standing. I had no expression on my face as it was arranged marriage, i had no feelings towards him/his family members. I sat with his family member and finished my breakfast too.

Then the actual engagement ceremony has began.It was almost 1 pm. They started whispering with one another and unfortunately, I heard one of them. She was telling, “Sunathaa ladki choti hai [I heard that girl is short!]”. I looked at them, they had lot of questions on their face. I had no idea of their intention, even now! One lady came to me asked “did u wear heels?” I said “yes!” and being so bubbly, by smiling i showed her how heel it was! I truly had no idea, what they thought, i was being so friendly, because, it was those days, was just going to college, mingling with friends, my life was so different than being a bride.

Bridegroom’s sister started telling “Poori janam chaubees gante chappal pehenke toh nahi rahegi na”.  I was just blank, my eyes were eagerly searching my sissy, my friend or any of my family member! But i find any of them nearby! Even after saying these sentences, they started clicking my photos with bridegroom’s sister. They wanted me to smile to their photos even after by making me hear these rude sentences. Eventually, i failed to smile at one moment and they found a drop of tear on my cheek. Truly, i couldn’t resist my feelings! Truly I couldn’t!

And by looking at a drop of tear, they started telling “Might be she is not happy, we think she dint like our bridegroom, so she might be crying etc”. I felt like darkness has covered my eyes! A drop of tear became a big issue! All my family members went and started talking bridegroom’s family members. I was sitting far away from them with my sissy. One lady came and told me to wear saree (Indian traditional wear). Me and my sissy went to our room, to dress up again. My friend and neighbor came followed us!

When i came out of my room, bridegroom’s family members where standing out of my home! I was so shocked! Even i agreed to my parents to get marry of their choice, I dint agree to break up on engagement ceremony itself! I dint compromise for this kind of shame which they did to me! I’m not a toy that anyone can come and do such arrangement, invite my friends and my family members, neighbors and can go without getting engaged! I have not given permission to anyone to break my feelings!

My sissy and my friend told me that, bridegroom was convincing his parents not to do! Not to leave a girl like this! He was telling them it seems, it wouldn’t be right to do so!
But he couldn’t stop them from doing these nonsense! I was standing near my window, behind the curtain and watching everything! They seated in their cars and ……

I saw my mamma turning and coming inside the home. I truly couldn’t see her her. All my pain was visible on her, her face was mirror of my soul.Her eyes where filled, lips were shivering! I saw her broken for the first time in 23years! I went to her, hugged her so tight because i had no courage to see her face and told her “Almighty has decided everything Don’t worry mamma”. Ma and my uncle also hugged me back, told me “be like this kiddo”.

Even if i act like being courageous outside, I was totally broken inside! Phone calls started  with bunch of questions! Like Why? what happened? Did she say anything wrong to them?  Did said something rudely? Is she having head weight of being double graduate! and many more! It has became a black dot on her life, what will be her future now, who will marry her? I was hearing all these sitting there silently.

There was total silence in my home! In the night I asked my uncle, “Uncle, do you think its a big black dot on my future? Why this happened with me? What was my fault? What will be my future now?” He hugged me and replied, “Beta, if you ask like this, what do i say, i have answers to your questions, when I’m seeing you from day you were born! I carried you in my hands, now you are 23 years old, we have seen and been with you each and every moment, if you ask me like this what do I do, But remember one thing that, the food which they had today in our house was theirs, so almighty has sent them to our home, dont worry, we all still love you and we will forever!”

Those words strengthened me! Prayers to my parents! You are such gems that only ocean can have! that’s me! strongest inside! For you Mr. Engagement guy you are nothing in front of me, my life didn’t stop! Thanks to you for making me realize, how strong I’m in real.

Today 25th July, 2016, its been nearly two and a half years! and I’m a wife of a human being! Whom he never cared for my physical appearance, My dresses never change his feelings for me! I’m so lucky for what happened  on 27th January, 2014, if i got engaged i wouldn’t have married to a man, whom i have married now! Love you Hubby! For being reality of my dreams! Once again Love you Hubby!

Writer: breathmath

 

Giant Tiger Prawns easiest Fry/ Malabar Style Prawns fry – Sea food

There are different species of prawn, but tiger, king are the most commonly found and sold in the coastal areas of Arabian Sea. They are fished in both the ocean and fresh water, and are farmed as well as wild.

 

These prawns commonly have a narrow, tapering body, under which the tail is curled, and long, antennae. The body is encased in a brittle shell, and all types have ten legs. These giant tiger prawns, when raw, they are blue-grey and in the case of the smaller varieties almost translucent.

Giant Tiger Prawns

Prawns were fresh and clean, not fishy smelling nothing, and it was looking moist. Legs and antennas were not broken or cracked. It was too fresh.

Lets go to main part now, preparing for cooking…

We need to peel them as its fresh prawn, they had shell-on. This can be done before or after cooking, but peeling them after cooking makes for a juicier, more flavourful prawn.But i love to eat without any disturbance once cooked 😀 😀

Its so easy to peel them, at first we need to cut its legs, then you can peel its shell. As its Giant Tiger Prawn you can eat its head also. Cut-off its antennas. Once the shell is off, check to see if there is a black line running down the back of the prawn. This is the intestinal tract – if it’s black, it’s full. It’s not harmful to eat, but the prawn looks better without it, and it can be a bit gritty. Removing it is called ‘deveining’. Make a shallow cut along the length of the black line, then lift it out using the tip of the knife.Wash them and keep them aside to drain water.

In the mean time prepare masala to fry, I used very few spices to retain the original flavor otherwise it gets dominated by masala. This fry can be made under 15 minutes(except marination period).  I have used giant black tiger prawns to make this fry, any variety of prawns can be used.

HOW TO MAKE EASY PRAWN FRY:

Step 1:After deveining, clean prawns. Rinse them thoroughly. At first marinate prawns in few drops lemon juice..

 

Step 2: Take 15-20 red chillies and Tamarind paste 1 table spoon, grind it mixer with half 100ml of water till it becomes smooth paste then add required amount of salt.

Step 3: Apply the red chilli-tamarind paste to drained prawns and leave it for 30 minutes.

Step 4: Add oil or ghee to a hot pan. When it turns hot add marinated prawns. ( I have added only one prawn to click a fine picture)

Step 5: Deep fry it for 6 to 7 minutes. I cooked for 10 minutes as it was too big in size by closing the lid. This is how it looked after 0 minutes of cooking.

Step 6: When the prawns swirl up completely, it means they are cooked thoroughly. YEY! Add curry leaves.

This you will super delicious starter with plain rice or basmati rice or ghee rice…

 

HOW TO MAKE PRAWNS FRY, EASIEST WAY OF COOKING PRAWNS:

Preparation time: 5minutes                               cooking time: 10minutes                               total time: 15 minutes

Ingredients: 

1/2 kg prawns

Curry leaves

To MASALA:

15 to 20 red chillies

1 table spoon tamarind paste

100ml water

salt to taste oil to fry

Instructions for cooking:

1. Prepare masala from red chillies,tamarind paste, salt and water.
2. Marinate cleaned & drained prawns in prepared masala.
3. Set aside for 30 minutes.
4. Heat ghee or oil in a pan
5. When oil becomes hot, add prawns and stir fry until they begin to swirl up.
6. Add curry leaves and continue to cook till they swirl completely.
   Switch off and serve with rice or you can use it as starter for ghee rice or biryani.

Writer: breathmath

Photo credit: Aneesa Sulaiman

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Drive from Jeddah to Mekkah-Life In Saudi Arabia

As i have told Life in Saudi Arabia, as planned… We got ready to go to the Muslim Holiest city Makkah Mukarrama at evening 5 O’ Clock, the distance from Jeddah to Makkah is almost 100km. It takes nearly 1 hour 10minutes to travel in bus.

 

As we went in a private vehicle, we stopped car and enjoyed the ride at many places 😀 it took more time than usual to us 😀 Kids at backside enjoying the drive,showing something or other to one another :* On the way we have got some views of countryside & mountains, we parked our vehicle to click for pic of much clearer…

 

Hill stations on the way to Makkah from Jeddah

Close view of the Hills

As it was Ramadan, we were on our fasting, we had nothing the way to have 🙂 Then we came near a beautiful entrance to Makkah, A Quran Gate on Makkah Mukkarram road..Masha Allah!

A Qur’an Gate, Makkah Mukarram Road

As we left home somewhat at 5 O’ clock on the we got to see sunset … again we parked car nearby and finished our ifthar looking at the sunset, done with our salah, as we brought required things with us 🙂

 

Then again, we seated back in our car, traveled a bit, that reached us Makkah surrounding, parked our car and started walking to Al-Haram. My kids favourite place in this street is Kaboothar Chauk, Masha Allah..A huge number of pilgrims used to feed number of pigeons 🙂

 

Masha-Allah

Finally, we reached Masjid Al Haram…

Masha-Allah

A kid prying on his on way in Masjid Al Haram

Kaaba Masha-Allah

Zam Zam water 

After that, we started doing prayers at holiest  place, Makkah Mukkarama…

Came back to Jeddah on that night itself 🙂 Good night everyone..

To be continued…..

 

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Life in Saudi Arabia

Wooooooowoooooooh! One of the most loved places by me! As we all know its a desert country!  Its land connects with Red Sea and Persian (Arabian) Gulf coastlines.

First thing on recalling Golf countries, I remember that camel ride… haha! Yep! Scary but still enjoyed it!  It’s home to the Muslim religion’s 2 most sacred mosques: Masjid al-Haram, in Mecca and Medina’s Masjid an-Nabawi, burial site of the prophet Muhammad(SWS)

Map of Saudi Arabia

In the Holy month of Ramadan we get leaves from office and our business at Saudi Arabia. While having causal talk at home, my kids started telling, this Ramadan lets go on long drive. Haha! after thinking for a while we (me & my hubby) agreed and started  planning for a long-drive as our kids wish 🙂

My kids ran to bring a pen and a paper to draw a map of our So called long-drive. My home at Saudi Arabia is in Jeddah, we first decided

1. Drive from Jeddah to Makkah-Life In Saudi Arabia
2. Jeddah to Madeena – Life In Saudi Arabia
3. Madeena to Mada’in Saleh
4. Tabuk
5. Sharma Beach – Life in Saudi Arabia
6. Haql Beach – Life in Saudi Arabia
7. Duba beach – Life in Saudi Arabia
8. Umluj Beach – Life In Saudi Arabia
9. Back to Jeddah

Kids has also finished their mapping by our conversation 😀

Drive began with four in members, Me, My hubby, Our kids( elder is boy and younger is girl)… Yo! See you all soon in next post…

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Star Fish- A beautiful animal at the sea shore

Star fish its also known as Sea Star. As we all know its a star shaped sea fish. It belongs to the class of Asteroidea. There are brightly colored in various shades of red or orange, while others are blue, grey or brown. Luckily I found the grey ones 🙂 The fascinating creatures.

A bunch of star-fishes resting at the sea shore.

They typically have a central disc and five arms, though some species have a larger number of arms.

Five armed Star-fish on my hand

 

We found the upper surface was smooth, granular or spiny, and is covered with overlapping plates, when we took one star-fish on our hands. The are as beautiful as it looks from far :*

It giggled our hands when it started its feet movement, loved it really.

It has countless feet in its every arm. Let us show you another pic of its feet.

Amazing pic of star-fish, loved it most.

 

When we were still amazing by looking at these star fishes, we found another star fish which was resting under the under sand and it was trying it come out of it.

Stage 1: A star fish resting under the sand…

Stage 2: Star fish trying to come out of sand

Stage 3: Yayyy! Finally done!

Wow! it’s been a real fun in sea shore, a great eve, had lots fun with StarFishes 🙂 Live Long! Let our future generation too see you in real, not only in blogs like this :*

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Photo credit: Aneesa Sulaiman